Failing Forward

Don’t be a Negatron, Be an Optimist Prime!

This morning, around 1am, we had a training conducted by one of my colleagues. The post title is the same title of the topic which is from the book of John Maxwell. It’s a great training because you can really relate to every information presented. So I decided to blog this and share it to all of you not to make you change but be able to realize those things we lack and need to reach our goals in life.

So what is failing forward? As we all know everyone fails. I doubt nobody fails. Every failure started from a simple mistake, a simple wrong decision, a simple wrong choice. But does that mean we are useless? Does that mean you’re not gonna be successful? Does that mean you’re forever a Failure? NO. Failure is one of our key to success. But we need to use our failures positively and still can move forward. A simple learning from our mistakes is one example. So if you’re those one who exaggeratedly label themselves a failure, you’re not and you can stop thinking about that! *admits was one of those people*

John Maxwell quoted a new definition of success and failure. He lists 7 things failure is not:

  • Failure is not avoidable – Definitely! It’s always has been part of our lives.
  • Failure is not an event but a process -Success is not a destination, it’s a journey that you take and what you do day to day. Success is a process and so is a failure.
  • Failure is not an objective – only you can label your actions as failure.
  • Failure is not an enemy.
  • Failure is not irreversible – once done, it’s done. You approach depends what step you’ll take.
  • Failure is not a stigma – Make each failure a step to success.
  • FAILURE IS NOT FINAL. – Definitely not the end of your world!

We fail, yes, but that’s just how it is. I used to be a person who exaggerates things when I fail. I totally blame myself, others for what happen and it made me realize that it’s not too late for everything. Sir Maxwell quoted the difference between average people and achiever people.

The difference of average people and achiever people are their perception of and response to failure. This impacts every aspect if their lives. Failure is not a single event. it’s a process.

Usually when we fail, we’re angry, we blame everyone around us for that failure. We cover up our mistakes, we try to speed things up and we give up. 

Every failure is an opportunity to take the right action and begin again. Need to take full responsibility and admit mistakes. It takes character – we need to get ahead of ourselves and take responsibility for our actions.

It’s alright to take mistakes and fail. It makes you more human. Take the risk and learn from the consequences. But sometimes, we tend to fail by doing that same old thing again knowing that we may fail. Sometimes we need to accept things that those are aren’t for us and we need to change our plan in order to continue our path towards our goal. It’s good we try and take the risk, there’s nothing wrong with that. But if it’s always like that and you always fail, there’s nothing wrong in accepting that and leave it behind instead of pursuing which doesn’t really work out.

It’s better to live a life making of mistakes than to do nothing at all.

It’s a challenge. It’s up to you if you fail backward or fail forward. But take note that if you fail backward, it limits you towards the world.

I’m glad I have receive this and made me realize things. I’m not perfect. Nobody’s perfect but I know I’ve done great things in my life. Life, is unfair, but that’s what makes it great…

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A rotten Fujoshi. KPOP Trash. Anime and Nendoroids. Hinata Shouyo's Mom.

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